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Why does my brother pick on me?

I am the youngest of the family and everyday I come home from school a hour later he comes home then he bothers me for no reason! He is also perverted. He will be like why haven't you grown hair or like why are you so ugly. And cusses at me. Like if a night before i piss him off he threatens me he will beat me up the next day and he says everytime I cry i just want attention. But really its because he hits me and annoys me. also he will never hit my sister. she always defends me. also when his friends come over he embarrasses me like telling lies and rumors like i pee like a boy. i tell my parents and they tell me they will gorund him and they do. but later he still does it. if i cry alot my parents tell me to stop whining. I am 10 yrs old he is 13 yrs old and my sister is 17 yrs old.. please tell me how i can solve this!!! without running away... he is a myspace aholic. and because he fail 7th grade (because he wanted to watch transformer 2 realll bad)and went to summer school for 6th grade. now i get to join him in middle school... How can I solve Thissss Also he says i am his slave and if i ignore him he starts to say come on b!tch tell me the if i dont he will hit me nonstop and i caught him once smoking. and he says he is in a gang and if i wore red he would beat me up but like two days ago i forgot and wore all red he really did beat me up and no i have a black eye. love my life :|......

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1. youre both really young, your brother is just showing off around his friends. kids are mean at your age. i'm 22. same things happen to other people. you just need to try to ignore him


2. i understand how you feel. im 12 and have a 14 almost 15 year old brother. he annoys me for no reason also. you have to live with it there is nothing you can do besides pretending you are not bothered by what he does. that may work hes trying to get on your nerves and he likes it when you react, so dont give a sign that you are and go cry in your room later if you really must. im sorry and i know also about the beating up thing. my bro says the same thing and is really strong so...ouch. and the things he says, he is trying to bother you and my whole family does the same thing, hope this helps a little.


3. Hey hang in there kid. The only reason why your older brother picks on you is because he is insecure about himself. Bully usually bully people because they do not like themselves. They feel that if they pick on someone they would feel better about themselves. You should learn to stand up for yourself. You don't need to fight him or whine about it whenever he picks on you. Just do your things and be yourself. He will grow out of it eventually. If you can, try to communicate with him and your parents. Have a little family meeting about it, but don't whine and point fingers. I'm sure your older brother cares about you deep inside. Be nice to your siblings.

   Remember communication is the key in any relationship in life. Enjoy life when you are still young. Take care kid!



4. Sibling rivalry is hard, although it is considered "normal", the fact that your parents are doing little to dissuade your brother probably means that he's one of your parents favorites.

   This speaks to a parent's inability to maintain boundaries between siblings, especially if there's religion involved, if there's religion involved, I hate to say it, but you're between a rock and a hard place, because religiously motivated parents gravitate to violence towards children, hatred & lies are commonplace as well.

   I had problems with my brother growing up as well, he still holds that against me today and has refused to speak to me because he fully embraced religion because he had emotional problems that he tried to solve with addictive drugs, then he turned back towards religion when drugs apparently didn't solve his particular problems, now religion has built a convenient wall between us.

   I solved the problem of my 2 years older brother trying to tell me what to do by beating him up or always ending up on top of him whenever we fought, I'm not saying that fighting solves anything, but when dealing with a sibling "bully", I found the best way to deal with bullies at school was to call their bluff of "beating you up after school" and meet them and challenge them, once you challenge a bully, (like your brother) unless they have deeper problems caused by too much religious indoctrination, usually they leave you alone, because there's one thing bullies don't like and that's feeling like they no longer control the person they view as inferior or "weak".

   That's probably what's motivating your brother to treat you the way he does, somewhere in his life he's feeling as though someone or something is controlling him against his will, therefore his response to this loss of control is to control you because he views you as an easy target, the fact that your parents are not holding him accountable for his actions compounds the situation by giving him the green light to do as he pleases with you, my advice, do whatever you can to interrupt the chain of events that leads your brother to view you as an easy target for ridicule, intimidation and what appears to be real or idle threats.

   One way to accomplish this is to refuse to allow him to belittle you anywhere you happen to be, at home, in public, or around your friends, this might cause you to take a few lumps if he outweighs you, but if you show even the slightest amount of resistance to his bullying, then that might be just enough to force him to move on to an easier target than you.